Friends… and strategies for our time!

I didn’t know it then… I didn’t even know the word… but she, the red giraffe to the far right, was my introduction to the notion of MetaModern!

We met, she and I, in the “old” chapel on the Columbia Theological Seminary campus during a prospective student weekend in 1986.

I was surprised. A bit uncomfortable, too. You see, I was raised with the notion that WE didn’t do stained glass… especially not the kind with – gasp – images! (There’s a magi with a gift in the middle panel, too, if you look closely!)

Now, there’s a whole lot of history and a great many power struggles behind that notion that WE didn’t do stained glass, though that’s not our big focus for this moment. It’s vocabulary time! (And, yes… if you’ve been hanging out for a while, you know where this is heading!)

Heresy!

Not in the old sense you may have learned, often having to do with women being burned at the stake or hanged. (And yes… several of them were my family!)

Instead, though, the meaning from the Greek…

Able to choose!

Which is where we come full circle to the whole notion of MetaMod, which basically means that many things are true and they don’t always get along very well. And, yes… it’s a #Filters thing!

Turns out, it’s also a survival tool for our time!

I’m betting you can do the math on that one, so I’m going straight to the #NextRightThing!

There’s a preview call on Thursday afternoon. (Yep, tomorrow!) A chance to wade in the waters of our upcoming #Filters class. To, literally, see what it feels like to claim your current vision of the place where you are called and to add some strategies to your Medicine Basket – or Soup Pot – to sustain and empower you on the journey.

I’ve been learning this stuff for decades and I had no idea I was learning it for such a time as this. I’m grateful. And called to share! Not just for the two grandteens I have growing up in this world, but for all our Littles who need us to catch on, now! To set out for the place we are called with fear, trembling, and determination!

The first next right thing is easy… click the button to sign up for the preview on Zoom. (It’s free!) You’ll want a cuppa and something to write on & with. Red Thread would not be amiss, if it’s handy. It’s time!!!

Dr. Sue Boardman, Warrior for Concrete Passion & Very Large Hope!

ps… you are totally welcome to bring a friend to the Preview!

Of fish and pools and courage – of filters and of things…

Yep! I had a dream… very, very early this morning. Before we go dream-diving, though, a bit of context is in order! You see, I’d been on an adventure on Saturday. An adventure with my friend, Sam, (TheRealSamBennett.com) to a place many of us were taught not to go! To the place where we – gasp! – talk about ourselves!!! (More on that after the fish…)

Do you remember Dr. Seuss’s McElligot’s Pool? I do! That’s what I heard in my dream! Well, bits of it…

And, yes… the world has changed some, since 1947, when this tale was first published. Though, perhaps not all of it, as much as we had hoped!

Now, the original version isn’t quite the way I’d tell the story myself, but stories are rather like that! So, we might say, is the world! It’s a context thing! And, yes… it’s also a filters thing!

In case our fishing friend, Marco, is unfamiliar to you, he is, as one reviewer said, all optimism, even in the face of adult skepticism. Here are a couple of the narrator’s questions…

What if the pool is deeper than anyone thinks? What if it connects to an underground stream that flows under the town to the sea? Might not all sorts of fish then swim up the stream and be caught here?

And, now, a few words from Marco, himself:

I might catch an eel… (Well, I might. It depends.) A long twisting eel with a lot of strange bends. And oddly enough, with a head at both ends!

For this moment, though… back to Sam on Saturday!

We were talking about talking about ourselves. Really! As in, how to tell people what we do! What we do that matters so much that we’d actually wipe our sweaty palms on the seat of our pants, open our mouths, and be real! And, you, wise reader, have already guessed that I was thinking about my free #Filters preview call, happening on Thursday! (Yep! FREE!)

And, yes… there are parts of that which feel scary.

For this moment, though, I’m counting on you to play along, please. We’re going to forget any old voices which might be whispering inside us… things like, it’s not polite to talk about yourself. Or, don’t be braggy!

Or, maybe, we’re just going to intentionally ignore those voices in the service of OUR journeys to the place my old friend, Fred Buechner called…

The place where our deep joy and the world’s great longing meet.

Being on that road changes things. I know! And, long before I was conscious of it, I was collecting a magical soup pot full of perceptions and strategies and conscious choices to help folks just like you, and me, get to our versions of that place!

Our friend, Marco, said:

If I wait long enough, if I’m patient and cool, Who knows what I’ll catch in McElligot’s pool?

Here’s the thing, though… and, yes, I believe this with all my heart:

The world all our Littles are growing up in needs us, NOW!

So, this Fiercely Compassionate Grandmother, with recently claimed Rebel tendencies, is sending the third grader who still lurks inside me – terrified of being different – on a fishing trip with Marco, while you and I go future-fishing on Thursday!

I’m busting out my whole intuitive, perceptive, creative, determined self and one of the very most helpful things I know FOR YOU, because the rules most of us grew up with AREN’T ENOUGH!

Take a deep breath, please, and push the button for all the info. And sign up! We’ve got this!!!

ps… yes! You’re welcome to invite a brave, open-minded partner or friend to join us! Just share this post with them, so they can sign up, too. (Or park a chair next to yours!)

How many times???

Yep! You know the rest of the question. In many ways, everybody’s least favorite question… How many times do I have to tell you???

Lots of people are writing about it these days. In my personal inner file cabinet, though, it goes in the precious folder labeled Developing Capable People. Not the question, itself, so much as the answer from my teacher, Dr. H. Stephen Glenn. Here goes…

As many times as it takes if you want me to know what you want me to know!

I used to think, 40 years or so ago when I was hanging with Steve, that it had to do with developmental readiness. With language skills and processing patterns. Even with tone of voice!

Now I know more!!! Likely with lots of help from paintings like my first #Legend painting, above!

You, wise soul, are probably ahead of me. It does, indeed, have to do with #Filters! Also, with our Maps of Reality. And, it matters!!!

Here’s an example… my new Good Trouble button:

What do you see? Really!!!

You probably know it’s a political statement of the open-minded, inclusive sort. It’s also a claim of personal power. Not power OVER, so much as power FOR! You see, in Hebrew, the word that means hand also means power! I see individuality, too. And creativity.

So, I made a bunch. Sold some at the Book Festival. Gave one away in the elevator, heading home from Physical Therapy yesterday, which is one of my favorite things! The woman I gave it to had tears in her eyes and said, “My world just got bigger!”

That, dear reader, feels like good work! That, and helping people like you claim YOUR good work and make a map from here to there… one Right Thing at a time!

NOW is a very good time for that!!!

And you probably have questions about this whole #Filters thing, so… we’re having a preview call! (I love questions!) It’s free to join in and you can, indeed, invite a curious buddy! We’ll do a bit of why this, now. We’ll talk about how the class will work and what you’ll need to be ready… including paint! We’ll even play with some Wisdom Cards! This world needs all the MetaMod folks it can get! All the calendar stuff, etc. is waiting with baited breath for you… just press the pretty button!

ps… it really is time to be a Phoenix, rising out of the soup pot!!!

Art is not for wimps!

First, I survived the Decatur Book Festival! Just between us… not something an introverted, mobility challenged Grammy with hyper-sensitive hearing finds restful.

There were, however, lots of Littles to wave at, a huge variety of dogs to pet, and some really cool people to meet. People who helped me get past the naked in public part of putting much of your deepest heart on canvas and between book covers.

Frankly, I would have turned down the volume on the band, stationed about half a block down the road from my little booth, though that’s way more about me than them!

We read books and experimented with Grammy’s MetaMod Wisdom Cards. And bears were a big part of the day. Nope! Not the live, wandering loose kind!

Just before we headed out, very early Saturday morning, I reached for my personal deck of wisdom cards. I decided the Symbols & Language category was calling to me, so I pulled a random one of those.

All things considered, an awesome start to the day! And, yes… it’s a #Filters thing! An experience with what my personal Map of Reality let in at that moment.

As a spirit guide, Bear is a presence, a force, and often, a teacher that shows up when you are asked to remember your own strength. It appears during times of personal transformation when you are being called to stand strong, face your fears, or retreat into yourself to gain clarity… Where might Bear be leading you now???

If you’re still reading along, you’re at least curious about this whole #Filters adventure, which is a great place for taking new steps.

So…

JUST CLICK HERE for answers to questions and Next Right Things!

ps… it really, really, really IS time!

When learning sneaks up!

Last night, I watched The Voice. And, even though I can’t carry a tune to save my soul, I learned some really useful things. Or, more accurately, was reminded of some really useful things.

While I was watching The Voice, I was also packing books and WingedEyeWisdom Cards and art prints for this weekend’s Decatur Book Festival. My version of The Voice, in a very real sense!

I know. It might seem like an odd way to spend an evening when the nation I live in feels like it’s crumbling around us. In fact, though, it helped! Not cosmically, perhaps, but in the sense that I lived my belief that my job in this world is claiming my vision of Concrete Passion & Very Large Hope… and taking another step in the direction of helping others to claim their visions.

I cheered for the singers. I felt for their family members – the thrilled and the disappointed. And, here’s the thing… showing up matters. Claiming dreams matters. As long as our dreams don’t obliterate everybody else’s.

It’s truth time.

I’m having a bit of a trauma flare. Well, maybe a bit more than a bit. You see, I know what it’s like to be around someone who thinks their wants, their ego, their power is all that matters. And I promised myself that I was going to learn from that experience and not go there again!

Fortunately, I have a plan. A plan for going, instead, to the place where I am called. My immediate next right thing is sleep. Then, more painting. Hearth tending. Prepping for the Book Festival. And, sharing this with you…

I can help YOU make YOUR plan for the journey to the place where YOU are called. Really!!! And we’re starting soon! It’s going to take a whole lot of us, and it probably won’t be easy, but – one step at a time – we’ll get closer! And, NOW is the time we’ve got!!!

And, if you’re in the neighborhood, drop by booth 58 at the Decatur Book Festival. There will be Red Thread and Good Trouble buttons!

ps… thanks, Walter!

Of fairy tales, names, and determination…

I don’t have a secret treasure chest of fairy tales, beloved since my early years. Disney was just getting started back then. Mom was fond of Betsy & Tacy, which is a Minnesota thing, and of Little House on the Prairie. When I started reading on my own, Nancy Drew was a fav buddy. She had questions, for sure, Also answers! I liked them both!!!

Just now, as I’m causing these words to appear in my laptop, Leonard Cohen is singing Hallelujah across the room. (Well, not literally Leonard Cohen!) And, just between us, there are tears gathering in the corner of my eyes, as there often are when I hear those words.

Translated from the Hebrew, they mean something very close to praise the Lord! It’s all pretty much about trying to make it in this life and still have thanks to give.

And my #Filters are all a-twitter!

What to let in… and what to leave outside my awareness, like static, or the sound of falling leaves. And, yes… I’ve been watching the news, too, which means that a whole bunch of the stuff coming at me has been, shall we say, less than encouraging!

Fortunately, that’s not the only stuff I’m letting in! For example… fairy tales! Really!!! Not the what, so much, though that’s cool, but the why. The ancient tradition of using fairy tales to help beloved Littles begin to engage notions that they have neither context, nor brain maturity, to grasp, and to engage them safely.

Let’s admit it… it’s hard to learn new things when we’re just trying to survive!

Here’s kind of a roundabout example… Names!

The way we’d always done it, about names, was that women grew up with their fathers’ names and, when they married they became known by their husbands’ names. And that all seemed normal to me until I got divorced, as a very young mom, and tried to sort all the paperwork. Bank accounts. Birth certificates. Nursing School application forms.

Did you know that it wasn’t legal, in most of the United States, for a woman to have a checking account in her own name until 1974??? And, even after it was legal, it wasn’t easy. In fact, for most of her life, my widowed grandmother needed her bank accounts and property to be in the name of one son or another to be legal. (Yep… a bit of tangle, that… which I had no clue about, growing up!)

Let’s just say that gaining rights and autonomy is hard. Losing them is even harder. (And that story about Gramma is a huge #Filter for me. One that keeps me on the road!!!)

I’ll bet you have examples, too!

And, somewhere, even in the midst of all the chaos, I’m convinced that there’s a place where you feel called. A place that matters enough to edit old #Filters and add to your strategies and – you know – actually DO the next right thing!

Back in the day, when I was just beginning to learn all this, I kind of just bumbled along the survival path, noticing and wondering, until some new things got conscious. And I began to share those new things with coaching clients, engaged couples, church folks… learning more every step of the way – sorting and practicing. And NOW is the time! This world needs as many of us as possible on the road to the places we are called. We really can’t cave to the Big Bad Wolf!

YOUR next right thing, if you’re still here, is simple… and not even scary! Take a deep breath.

Push this button!

Check out all the details. A bit more backstory. And see yourself – place yourself! – in the circle that’s forming!

ps… YES! You get to paint, too. And this would be an awesome place, curious heart, to dip your toe into the magic pool of Intentional Creativity®. New artists totally welcome!!!

Let’s talk strategies… and soup!

Yep… two of my favorite things! There’s a bit of my favorite wild rice soup thawing for lunch, on this cloudy, between seasons sort of day. That’s always good news!

There are also lots of strategies bubbling in my head. My heart, too, if we’re being real!

And all that bubbling is going on in the context of this world, now. That’s where we come in! Me. You. The people you love. Neighbors. Congregations. Even my new friend, Becca, who’s up to her eyebrows in pulling off the Decatur Book Festival on October 4. (Gulp!!!)

Here’s my favorite thing about strategies… they’re all about my very favorite question:

What are we trying to accomplish???

Really! In this world, now… And, here’s the tricky part: the best answers come from the very core of who we are! And, yes, it can feel scary. Lonely, even, because our very best answers often don’t seem to fit well with the world around us. I’d even go so far as to say that it feels like much of the world around us would really rather we didn’t claim our very best answers. Didn’t act from them. Didn’t live them.

I’ve had way too much of that! We’ve had way too much of that!!!

So… my Strategy Soup recipe is all about sharing what one of my favorite teachers called Concrete Passion & Very Large Hope. And you’re invited!

Here’s the thing, though… you’ve got to take a deep breath, click the magic word, just below, and learn all about the next right thing! Yep… YOU!

Yep! The way to pronounce the Hebrew word you may have noticed in the painting, above. It means both Here I Am and I Am Ready. Ready for what??? To explore. To notice questions. To imagine hope!

ps… the phoenix rising out of the stardust soup could be YOU!